Chaos is a name for any order that produces confusion in our minds. — George Santayana
Avoid keeping things stirred up. This is especially important if events have caused confusion or disruption or if there is arguing or serious controversy. At those times, tension and stress tend to be high and the emotional wash can quickly cover everyone and everything. This was pointed out by Anaïs Nin, We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. Importantly, you dont necessarily try to soothe people or calm the situation. Rather, you stop anything you are doing to exacerbate the tension and then figuratively and perhaps literally move away, out of the negative energy field. You need to get away from all the static before you can deal effectively with the situation.
Have you heard that a balanced life should be the goal for all of us? Well, I heard that too and am thinking that the idea is at least silly and probably not possible. So how do we make sure that all of the elements of our lives get their fair share, without neglecting any of them? I suspect you will agree that it’s something worth considering.
Never look down to test the ground before taking your next step; only he who keeps his eye fixed on the far horizon will find the right road. — Dag Hammarskjöld
Focus most of your time and energy on goal attainment. Minimize time and energy absorbed by worrying about unlikely contingencies and maintaining the status quo. This strategy maximizes your focus on the here-and-now. It minimizes the amount of static or irrelevant data thus enabling you to focus your intuition nearly exclusively on goal-centered data.
The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good. Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom. — James Allen
You deal smoothly with the ups-and-downs of life. Most people generally reflect the state of their personal worlds. When things are going well, they are more positive and energetic. When their worlds are in a down turn, they are more irritable and anxious. For you, though, this pattern is not evident. Rather, you seem unaffected by the fluctuations. This is because you separate events from your reaction or response to them. To let yourself be pulled up and down by what is happening around you consumes unproductive energy and attention and diminishes your capacity to deal effectively with whatever is happening.
We must exchange the philosophy of excuse for the philosophy of responsibility. — Barbara Jordan
Holding people responsible and accountable on the one hand and blaming and accusing them on the other are not the same. Holding someone responsible is a performance standard. Holding them accountable is a performance expectation. Alternatively, blaming and accusing imply negative opinions and perceptions of the individual.
To blame someone or accuse them represents a pejorative assessment of them. Blaming and accusing are always subjective and personal while responsibility and accountability are performance elements that can be objectively evaluated and, if necessary, adjusted. Since other people are accountable for their performance, the level of responsibility extended to them may be increased or decreased, depending on their performance. To blame or accuse are counterproductive. Holding people responsible and accountable are key elements in your approach with people. It starts with holding yourself responsible and accountable and then simply extending the principle to other people.