Assertiveness is not what you do, it’s who you are! — Cal Le Mon
Don’t let people take advantage of you. The issue here is twofold. First, an unfortunate element of human nature is that letting people take advantage of you encourages them to repeat the behavior in the future. The more people take advantage of you, the more people will take advantage of you.
Second, being taken advantage of evokes anger, frustration, resentment, and related energy draining emotions and feelings. Along with being unpleasant, these emotions and feelings are unproductive and divert attention and energy from cognitive processes and especially from intuitive processes. The manifest cost of being taken advantage of is apparent but the hidden cost to one’s intuitive capacity is even more disabling. For you, the bill associated with letting people take advantage is quite simply too high.
Never look down to test the ground before taking your next step; only he who keeps his eye fixed on the far horizon will find the right road. — Dag Hammarskjöld
Focus most of your time and energy on goal attainment. Minimize time and energy absorbed by worrying about unlikely contingencies and maintaining the status quo. This strategy maximizes your focus on the here-and-now. It minimizes the amount of static or irrelevant data thus enabling you to focus your intuition nearly exclusively on goal-centered data.
Indecision is debilitating; it feeds upon itself; it is, one might almost say, habit-forming. Not only that, but it is contagious; it transmits itself to others. — H. A. Hopf
Make decisions and take action thoughtfully but quickly. Don’t delay or postpone decisions or actions, dont try to avoid or defer doing what needs done, and don’t hesitate or proceed reluctantly. Your actions and reactions aren’t impulsive or ill considered. They are, instead, decisive and timely. In part, you are able to do this because you tune into and trust your intuition. Experience tells you that trusting yourself is a reliable path to success.
When someone is impatient and says, I haven’t got all day, I always wonder, How can that be? How can you not have all day? — George Carlin
You are seldom impatient or in a hurry. This is in part because you tend to stay relaxed and relatively laid-back; but there are two more important reasons. First, you are seriously interested in other people and in what they have to say. Allowing time to listen is thus something that you value and want to do. Second, you are able to plan and arrange things so you have time and dont need to rush or become impatient. You have an uncanny ability to be places just in time, have things done just in time, and to be available just in time when others need to talk. This extends to managing your schedules so there is always enough time to calmly take care of whatever needs your attention now.
If getting what you want depends on someone else changing, you are likely in for a long wait. Even so, you may succeed without anyone changing. Then what? — Press play to listen.